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[silverthunder]

My mother came in here this morning and told me that she'd just gotten a phone call - my grandfather passed away last night.

It was... really kind of inevitable. He's very old and he's been sick for a long time; mom's been going to see him in the hospital every night. The nurse told her recently that he probably wouldn't last the week.

It's just... now.

I'm not sure what I should feel about this. My mother's family was so big, I didn't even know him very well - he had to divide his attention between a ton of grandchildren and great-grandchildren. But... yeah.

I gave my mom a hug and she cried. I feel sad for her... I wish I'd known him better, though. It seems like I should be feeling more than I do.

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[ice-is-blue.livejournal.com]

Aw, that's rough. *hugs* That was how it was two years ago with me, my mother, and my last-surviving great-grandmother. My mother knew her better, whereas I had grown up on the other side of the country. Factor in a large family and I can count my concrete memories of her on one hand. What struck me the hardest wasn't her death, but at the apparent loss of possibility for interaction. I was able, though, to use the very few memories I did have to help my mother talk and remember.

That might not be applicable for your situation... everyone grieves in different ways and it might be a while (if ever) before your mom's ready or wanting that... but I think that sometimes, it's easier to help others who are grieving hard. It gives us something to do while we sort out what we think. Don't feel pressured to feel something, but at the same time, if it hits you later, you have a right to feel however you do... 'cause he was your grandfather, too.

My thoughts and sympathies are with you and yours.