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My mother came in here this morning and told me that she'd just gotten a phone call - my grandfather passed away last night.

It was... really kind of inevitable. He's very old and he's been sick for a long time; mom's been going to see him in the hospital every night. The nurse told her recently that he probably wouldn't last the week.

It's just... now.

I'm not sure what I should feel about this. My mother's family was so big, I didn't even know him very well - he had to divide his attention between a ton of grandchildren and great-grandchildren. But... yeah.

I gave my mom a hug and she cried. I feel sad for her... I wish I'd known him better, though. It seems like I should be feeling more than I do.

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I'm sorry to hear that. It always sucks when a family member passes away whether we knew them well or not. You have my condolences.

*hugs*

You have my condolences.

I know what you mean about the feelings, though. I wasn't really close to my grandmother who passed away last year, so I didn't shred a tear until I walked into the room she was laid out in. Then I was a mess. I don't know if you're going to the funeral, but so long as you're at peace with yourself about it, there's no reason to feel guilty for your feelings. (Guilty isn't exactly the word I want there, but I'm not sure the word I want actually exists, if you understand.)

Take care and peace be with you.

Expecting something is a lot of times more feelingful {I know it isn't a word} than the event itself.

May you not know more sorrow.

|Meduza|

I'm sorry. I know what you mean. My grandfather has diabetes and liver cancer, and he'll probably pass away soon. Don't feel guilty; because I doubt that he would have wanted you to feel that way. Hope things get better.

I'm so sorry. *cuddles you* I know what it's like. I knew my Granddad really well and I still felt really blank when it happened. It's a horrible thing to go through. Anything I can do, let me know. My sympathies with you and your family.

I'm sorry to hear about that. Even if you didn't know him well, it still hurts to lose someone you knew.

my grandpa died last year ... about this time actually. that's pretty much what we went through. he'd been sick for a while, and then he was just gone.

...i barely knew him, so i didn't react with crying and stuff. i was just really quiet for a while. don't worry about not feeling "enough". everybody shows their sadness in different magnitudes.

Aw, that's rough. *hugs* That was how it was two years ago with me, my mother, and my last-surviving great-grandmother. My mother knew her better, whereas I had grown up on the other side of the country. Factor in a large family and I can count my concrete memories of her on one hand. What struck me the hardest wasn't her death, but at the apparent loss of possibility for interaction. I was able, though, to use the very few memories I did have to help my mother talk and remember.

That might not be applicable for your situation... everyone grieves in different ways and it might be a while (if ever) before your mom's ready or wanting that... but I think that sometimes, it's easier to help others who are grieving hard. It gives us something to do while we sort out what we think. Don't feel pressured to feel something, but at the same time, if it hits you later, you have a right to feel however you do... 'cause he was your grandfather, too.

My thoughts and sympathies are with you and yours.

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